“Honor thy father and thy mother, as Jehovah thy God commanded thee; that thy days may be long, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which Jehovah thy God giveth thee” (Deuteronomy 5:16).
Do you understand that this is God’s very FIRST COMMANDMENT with a PROMISE!
God said that if you just obey and respect your parents, you will live a long profitable life. This blog means so much to me as I share with you what I have been blessed to understand with a deeper interpretation of God’s living word. As I’ve grown older, my level of wisdom has increased by rereading the word of God at different stages of my life. And although I share this commandment with you today, I have not always followed this commandment within my personal life.
Just to give you a little background on the expansion of my understanding. I was raised by my mother. My mother was also raised by a single mother. My mother’s mother was raised by a single mother. That is three generations of parental curses. But I will leave the cursed genealogy here just for a second while I address the progression of me and my mother’s relationship in Christ.
My mother was born of an abusive home which limited her ability to spiritually develop, forcing her to seek physical growth in the world of destruction. Unfortunately, the curses of single parenting wasn’t the end, but the beginning of a generational curse that was designed to torment the women of my family for years to come. Not only was my mother a victim of verbal abuse, but of physical, and emotional. And guess who that fell on. Me. My mother had become a product of her environment and as outcome, became her biggest enemy – her mom. At the young age of 17, my mother was asked to leave my grandmother’s home with an infant child. Just 19 years later, my mother requested the same of me.
Now, the reason that this story is such a testimony is because I found my purpose in the struggle of generational curses. Many women in their time of trials, find bitterness to be an outlet, lashing at the abuser as a means of closure. But God wanted more for my mother and me. And I believe this word will change your life.
I am here to tell you THAT IT IS NOT OVER!
Years after my mother and I had grown apart from pain and sorrow, I had become very empty. See, because I had no foundation. The foundation of all that I knew was gone. I begin to grow closer to God as a result. As I grew in humility, my love returned for my mother – as well as my hurt. While, I experienced much pain with her, my love for God showed me my purpose within her as though she was the key that unlocked my destiny. Within the structure of learning to respect my mom, God revealed forgiveness in my life. God revealed real love. My security and foundation began to form again and as I learned God, my mother begin to learn me. Her love for me opened her eyes to God’s parental correction and redirection. Because I found God, God returned in her. Within the spiritual modification of our lives, God had begun to remove curses as I too was a single parent – yet lacking the factor of abuse.
God’s word does not negate the pain of progression, yet the promise of His commandment rewards much. Today, I am free and I know that although my mother found limitations in the past, she will find peace knowing that she has changed my life. I respect her as well as the pain that brought her through. And I too pray for my child’s honor so that she may find destiny in me.