“What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?” Mark 8:36 (NIV)

Like, really. Ask yourself. “What good it is [for you] to gain the [entire] world [and all it consist of/people/money/things]” and not have peace of mind (Mark 8:36)? Peace without anything.

Is the life that you are fighting for worth your serenity? Is it really worth the time spent, the money invested, or the energy lost? Is the life that you are working for, leading to the desires of your heart? Or…Or are you comparing your life, every second of everyday, to every post and person that you come in contact with?


When I turned 25 years old, I knew things would be different. This was the year of TWENTY-THRIVE for sure! I was going to be happy! I was now able to confront my abusers. I was able to stand up for myself. I was able to bend, with-out breaking. I no longer acted out of emotion, and my heart was back to loving purely with a mind to forgive even when the apology had yet to be received. I was good. But what I had not mastered was – the ability to live freely and peacefully. My moves were robotic as my reactions were based on deep thought and multiple forms of confirmation. I assumed that everyone judged me, thus limiting my personal esteem and happiness. It felt like although the curses were broken, I had no direction on how to BUILD a life of genuine peace and freedom beyond them.

So what did I turn to for direction? Social media.

My lack of personal peace and fulfillment was due to the excessive amount of time that I spent on social media and the high profile social settings that I elected to surround myself with. Not to say that either of the two were the “direct issue”, yet with the excessive amount of time that I spent on social media and the lack of spiritual support there – I had completely conformed to the lifestyles and mindsets of those around me, assuming that the freedom and peace I THOUGHT I saw on them would somehow become mine one day. I did not understand how to truly incorporate the full peace of God in worldly circumstances. My goals had become public; my relationships; my thoughts; everything that I had and desired was made public. And I allowed the public to drown out my peace of mind.

 It took for me, to pray and step back from social media, to see God’s revelation on how having a private level of peace could surpass the understanding of outcasts. How His favor was silent and His freedom was within. How instead of me “posting” the life that I wanted to actually live, I could silently rest in the full presence of God and actually live in His will and peace for my life.

 You feel me?

 See, the world will try and teach you that you can only have one form of happiness; that you can have peace, with no freedom or freedom, with no peace. Money equals more problems. Happiness lacks money. But in all spirituality, God’s word says that, “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). This is His word, His declaration. By Him, you and I have peace and freedom in the spirit. We have the ability to freely live and find peace in the midst of the entire world. This scripture tells me that regardless of what anyone else does, I need not to compete for happiness but to seek it from within; to not compare but to create. I urge each one of us to let go of the world and seek the internal peace of God within; to stop with the #relationshipgoals or #lifegoals and to work internally to achieve them beyond the hashtag. Hop off that social media application and really dig deeper within yourself and ask God what direction you should go.

God said, “…be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God”(Romans 12:2). This is a scripture to live by if your desire is true happiness and peace. Your worldly goals are great! But how is your soul? Ask yourself.

Be inspired.

De’dria Bynum


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